![]() ![]() If she asks for anything now, give it to her. Step 3: If she remains quiet, and she refuses to answer you, say, “Is there anything I can do for you?” Open her heart and say what she’s upset about so that she can feel better ORĢ. Step 1 followed by step 2 will invite her to:ġ. Step 2: Give her a couple of minutes to answer.Įver seen an ice-cream cake melt in the sun at a birthday party? If she’s upset with you, then this is what’s happening to the ice she’s built around her heart for protection. Have I done anything to make you feel unloved?” Step 1: Follow her, but give her plenty of physical space. What I’m about to reveal is not a perfect system, but it’s the most consistently effective strategy I’ve found.Īnd it’s probably no surprise that my strategy is communication.ģ-Step Formula Script to Find the Truth of Her Meaning So the question is: When should you chase after her and when should you actually honor the words she’s saying and “leave her alone?” So you see, this “leave me alone” misunderstanding can be high stakes. Over time, with enough of these sacrifices, she will lose any and all sexual attraction she had for you, and you can kiss your sex life goodbye. This is not what a woman does for her man this is what a mommy does for her son. She will feel guilty for pulling away and will sacrifice her need for space and me-time in order to make you happy and ease your concern. She will feel like she needs to take care of your feelings. ![]() Without it, the love will slowly disintegrate under a blanket of doubt, insecurity, and secrets.Ģ. ![]() Trust is one of the main ways a man receives love. A woman needs to feel that her boundaries and requests will be honored otherwise, she feels that she can’t trust you. If you follow her when she needs me-time, and she’s expressly set the boundary that she wants to be left alone.ġ. If she’s aligned with meaning #2 and you choose to run after her, bad things will happen. A slow-burning resentment that causes her to nitpick, criticize, and ice you out of her heart completely. An explosive fight later on when you least expect it where she lists ALL the things you’ve ever done wrong.Ģ. If she felt hurt before, she feels even more hurt now.ġ. If you don’t follow her, apologize, and try to make things better, she feels like you don’t love her and that she’s not important to you. If she’s aligned with meaning #1 and you choose to leave her alone, bad things will happen. High-Stakes Misunderstanding: What Happens When You Guess Wrong I just need to give to myself right now, and I need space to do it.”īecause there are two unique meanings for the same words, men have a 50% chance of totally screwing up. I’m not available for intimacy right now or for giving to anyone. Meaning #2: “ I need some me-time to relax and be by myself. It’s not going to be easy for you to make this better. You did something to piss me off, and I’m not available for intimacy. Women have two different meanings for the phrase, “Leave me alone!” This Is What “Leave Me Alone!” Really Means After all, she just said the words, “Leave me alone.” So why is he in trouble for respecting her wishes? Sometimes, when a woman says, “Leave me alone,” and a man automatically respects it (as he would hope she would do for him), she gets even more upset. You can sign up to get it right here.īut when it comes to a woman, this phrase is slightly more nuanced and can mean more than one thing. If you’re curious to learn more about why that is (and what you can do about it), I have a free 3-day email course that will explain EXACTLY Why Men Pull Away, from a scientific and biological perspective. It’s actually the best thing for your relationship. Men really need this time to pull away, and it’s not personal. After a short cave time, he’s ready to play again!Īs long as she doesn’t get needy or angry during this critical cave time, the relationship stays strong, and “Leave me alone” or “I need space” isn’t a big deal - it’s just straightforward communication. Often, women make more of it than it is and take it personally as if they’ve done something wrong and he’s mad.ĩ9% of the time, he wants to be alone for a while to cool down, relax, let off steam, take a break from thinking about somebody else’s needs - and it has NOTHING to do with his lovely partner. When it comes to a man, the words “Leave me alone,” mean one thing only: Leave him the heck alone or face the fire-breathing dragon. “Leave Me Alone!” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means In this post and video, I’m going to show you what “Leave me alone” means to women and what it means to men (they’re different!) so that you can feel confident about how to respond to your partner in a way that serves the relationship, builds trust, and strengthens your bond. In a relationship, is there anything more gut-wrenching (or confusing!) than the phrases “Leave me alone” or “I need space”? ![]()
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